What About Me... ?
While cleaning my bedroom this morning , i had the television on . It had one of those chat show morning programmes that we all seem to have these days .
I was not intending to post today , but one of the subjects made me stop , and watch it . Then i had to say something on here about it .
On came a man , who`s wife had breast cancer . A double mastectomy , and was on the long road to recovery . So why was he on ? He was telling his side of the " story " , of being "left out " in his wife`s cancer `s diagnosis , to operation , to recovery .
And i had a light bulb moment , of me thinking of well , yes i am " guilty " of not thinking how the cancer partners feelings are taken into consideration .
He chatted about him feeling alone , and not having someone outside to talk to about it . So he had to resort to finding out himself , from the internet , all the jargon words they use while consulting his wife . He felt excluded in the discussion , even though he was present throughout all of his wife`s . And went onto say , and i don`t think he was selfish in saying so , " Nobody has ever asked how i am feeling " . Yes relatives came to visit us both , but always asked me , how is she doing ? All their attention was on her , and i felt even more left out .
I felt for that man , not pity , but him having to go through it on his own , when he had a traumatic enough time to deal with .
So how could i not see this , and not ask my sister how her husband is dealing with this ?
All your attention is on the one who is having to " deal with it ". And i was blind to the fact i didn`t think of him .
It`s also a question i could have asked Sherry , but not thought of it , until it was made public , to make you think , well yes how are you doing ? . Yes i did feel the need to get the message out there more , and to show that there is hope for all " sufferer`s " and "survivors " . I was more focused on Sherry and her inspiration to give to others out there . Not that i want to take anything away from that , but i apologise to you .
Maybe it could be a subject to write yourself about Sherry ? If you have not done already .
Yes i know men will be men , and put on a brave front , because they will be seen as "weak " , and not ment to cry . But they have feelings too , even if they seem they don`t want help , and not show their feelings as much women , they could be crying inside .
So amidst all your questions and concerns , have a little thought for their partners please .
I know i will do now .....